Compatibility


Compatibility is the first step in any lasting relationship.  How do you find if you are compatible? The answer is both simple and complicated.  It starts with honest communication, as basic as a plain conversation with the person who may be your everlasting love. 

Paying attention to their answers can give you the sings you need to show a love that will last.  Some things to keep in mind:

In order be compatible, couples must find ways to enjoy things together as much as they do independently.  Asking your date their idea of fun is a great icebreaker.  It is also a way to discover new ways of having a good time.  A conversation about what hobbies can give you an insight on your partner and yourself.  Be open to new things, and do not be afraid to make the plunge into unfamiliar waters.

However, either of the extremes can be dangerous.   The key is to find a balance between appreciating time together and time apart.  To be too dependent on a partner may leave you hurting if you should break up. Having nothing in common is a sure sign that a relationship is in trouble.  Remember, it is the things you have in common that is what makes a long-term relationship work.  You may not know it at first, but making a hobby a joint pleasure is part of success in the end.

Trouble is on the horizon if your new love believes life should be handed to them on a silver platter, while you may feel hard work and struggle is the path to financial greatness.  Communication is essential.  Do not lie to impress your future partner.  Be upfront about your ideas of financial success.  If you are the Good Samaritan and they are not interested in donating anything, it is good to get that out in the open early.  Who knows?  You may bring out the best in them.

  • Professional Goals

Long-term ambitions are important to compatibility.  Unrealistic job expectations of your partner are not a good way to begin a relationship.  If you want to pursue each of your own careers, the plans will affect your relationship, so it is good to discuss it early. It may be that your goals can work together, but it is important to know that going in. Life always presents you with a moving target, and it is always a good idea to be flexible in your plans.  You may discover your true nature you never knew.

  • Religion and Spirituality

Usually any incompatibility with faith comes out before things get too intense.  It may not signal the end of a relationship, but it can be huge hurdle.  However, curiosity over differences in beliefs can also be fertile soil which can help love grow.  The interest in your partner’s convictions may push the engine of your lives together.   It may not be the best dinner conversation for the first date, but it is always a subject that both of you can benefit from.

A strong partnership comes out of love, desire and a need to make the parts of your lives fit together.  Of course, the more things you and your partner have in common, the easier your relationship will be.  It is not worth the effort constantly trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.  You will be much hap

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3 thoughts on “Compatibility

  1. So much good info here….I personally have found that a lasting, healthy relationship starts with a true friendship that runs deeper than anything else, in spite of the differences…..Something that has been lost is a basic respect and gratitude for their partners…..It is so wonderful to be mated for life with your best friend and soul mate,….:)
    Celeste
    Thank you for the visit and the follow too….

  2. I agree so much with Celeste. I have been married for 30 years and my husband has always been my best friend. We were friends for almost a year before we became a couple (of what, I’m not sure) but I believe that has made all of the difference.

    Also, I’d like to make a point about religion v. spirituality. My husband and I are of 2 different religions but have the same spiritual beliefs. With the exception of the logistics of how to raise the children (we exposed them to both and allowed them to choose when they got old enough), the important thing was that we were both moving in the same spiritual direction. Which building we sat in to get there really didn’t (and still doesn’t) matter.

    Thanks for this great post.

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